Not Choosing Is Also A Choice

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“Know that in your deeper mind are infinite intelligence and infinite power.” — Joseph Murphy

Reading the “7 habits” was life-changing for me and the starting point of my transformation after having tried the fake growth journey fueled by the positive affirmations. They merely added a new layer numbing the root causes of my imbalance. Should you be interested, I explored the topic in detail here. 

There is an important detail that I need to mention. I know many people who read this same book, who were mind-blown and thought, sincerely, that it would change their existence. Nonetheless, they didn’t evolve at all.

In the words of the brilliant Gregg Braden:

It’s about becoming the practice and allowing it to be a way of life rather than viewing it as something that we do in a moment in time. We do programs all over the world, and people come after the program and say, “Great program! When is the next one? What should I study next?”

And I have to say to them, “There is no more! Go home and experience and live what it is you’ve learned here!”. But, for some people, diversion is the problem. It’s easier to go from workshop to workshop, study to study, and teacher to teacher rather than embrace and live with what they’ve learned already in their lives.

 

What is the problem?

The illumination only stays at the conscious mind level. Sadly, if you don’t use any life-changing knowledge to execute on it and re-write the subconscious program, you can read thousands of books, and none would have any impact.

As long as there is a phase-shift between your conscious and subconscious minds, the latter will always win. Here is an example which might better illustrate what I mean:

There was a guy who visited an Asian country. The native people have a ritual: drinking venom during a ceremony as a way to celebrate their power over fear.

The tourist wanted to try and believed so much he would be able to pass the test. Everybody advised him not to. He was stubborn, drank the venom, and died within a few minutes.

What was the problem? When he was a kid, his parents told him that venom would kill him. It was the algorithm in his subconscious program. After drinking venom, the survival instinct activated the deep rule, unfortunately. 

What happens when you move back to the original center?

No matter what stimulus is happening to you, be it lack of respect, free cruelty, judgment, unfairness, dishonesty — you name it, it triggers an emotion: a physical signal which is sent to your mind for analysis.

Are you tempted to know which part of your brain is analyzing the signal? Can you give a guess? Bingo! The fast subconscious mind, which operates at 40 million bytes/sec — one million times faster than the conscious one.

That is, if your subconscious program is full of insecurities, mental patterns, and unprocessed feelings, then your answer will be aligned with its quality: reactive, violent — anything meant to hurt the person with whom you are interacting.

Whenever you make a choice, that you decide to pay the price and write your new principle-based program, you will reconnect with your intrinsic worth which was discriminated against, develop your resilience and ability to understand the truth that others behavior toward you is telling much more about their inner war than it is personal. Hence, two options would be available to you:

If you are dealing with a close kind-hearted person and that you are wholeheartedly invested in your relationship, you could feel frustration, disappointment and sadness. At the same time, you would feel compassion, wish them to set themselves free at some point, and move on.

If the person is a stranger or an abuser — be it family, colleagues, or friends, you would either stand up for yourself firmly but gently or ignore them, while feeling pity and wishing them some inner-peace. If you are curious to know about the most effective answer depending on the context, this might be a good fit for you.

Final thoughts

Rewiring your subconscious program is one of — if not THE hardest choice you would ever make. If it was not the case, we would be living in a “World Of Pandora”!

I am still studying those I know in person or heard of who were successful in their endeavors in an attempt to discover the common patterns which made the trigger possible in the first place.

What I know for sure, though, is what contributes to committing to the transformation:

• Humility and realizing that the universe is not revolving around you.
  
  
• Honesty to admit to yourself that you feel stuck and are ready to do something about it.
  
  
• Openness to challenge your limiting beliefs, which are so ingrained you have been taking them for the absolute truth.
  
  
• Bravery to stay with the pain of transforming, which is generated by the resistance of your unhealthy ego. What would help you is to understand your ego took your power, and to find a “why” that goes beyond you.
  
  
• Consistency in re-writing the program. It is the only way to defeat one of the differences between the conscious and subconscious minds: the way of learning. While the former is creative, the latter is habitual and repetitive.
  
  

Are we basically a product of nature (our genes) or of nurture (our upbringing and environmental conditions)?

The very question itself is based on a false dichotomy. It is based on a false paradigm or map of human nature, that of determinism. We are a product of neither nature nor nurture; we are a product of choice, because there is always a space between stimulus and response. As we wisely exercise our power to choose based on principles, the space will become larger.

Little children and people who are mentally handicapped may not have that space, but the overwhelming majority of adults do. Determinism is deeply imbedded into present-day culture and is reinforced by the terrifying sense that if I do have a choice, then I am also responsible for my situation.”

Until a person can honestly say “I am what I am” and “I am where I am because I so choose to be there”, that person cannot say with conviction “I choose otherwise. ~ Stephen Covey

 

I am aware everyone of you is craving being recognized as a good person, speaking your voice, and contributing to leaving a legacy after going away from this physical world — at least in your current body for those of you who believe in multiple lives.

Know that the magic of re-writing your program and setting the original great being free is that it will become your natural way of showing up in the world. It will become effortless for you to enlighten others’ existence. You will impact people more than you could even imagine.

You won’t have to fight all the evil in the world or be globally recognized as a change-maker. All that you need is to genuinely give back to the world no matter how big or small. That’s what servant leadership is all about.

“There is zero chance of being a good person without doing good for others!”

― Mehmet Murat ildan