What if You Stop Being Diplomatic?

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For those of you who are stopping by for the first time, I want to welcome you warmly and thank you for your precious time! If you are a returning reader, I never get enough of repeating how much I value your trust and loyalty!

For the latter group, you already know that I talk about emotional intelligence frequently. I will add a few samples in the bottom for anyone of you — dear readers — who might be interested in the topic or in re-discovering!

I find it a bit sad to witness how many folks can feel confused and lost when it comes to making the difference between emotional intelligence and diplomacy.

How can we be impacted by emotional intelligence?

First things first, let’s start by specifying that emotional intelligence should not apply to abusers/manipulators.

Its fundamental role is to have a genuine connection, that is should exclusively be granted to kind souls who understand the healthy exchange of energy; not exclusively looking for being flattered to nurture their fragile ego.

The target population includes those who are still diving into life with their emotional conditioning baggage with a heart open to what the Universe sends them through people with whom they interact.

Sometimes, it could be pure strangers to whom they didn’t even need to talk. This might give you an idea about what I mean.

Interestingly, emotional intelligence is an effective way to inspire change by merely modeling servant leadership.

On the other side, abusers/manipulators are empty and eternally tormented souls. They are entitled, exploitative, and lack empathy. Life for them is a game about control and power that they need to win at all costs.

More to the point, they can neither build a bond nor get inspired!

 

The difference between diplomacy and emotional intelligence

While the former is fueled by the need to either fit in or manipulate, the latter is driven by principles and a desire to inspire or empower.

If you are familiar with the first definition, that you find yourself pretending emotions or doing things you don’t want to do for the sake of protecting your public self, please be aware that it is a red flag that you lack healthy boundaries.

No matter who the abuser is — be it a friend, parent, sibling, or even your child, you are destroying any chance to make them accountable for their self-serving and manipulative behavior when being diplomatic. Know that you are responsible for enabling them to hurt other individuals about whom you might care.

Most importantly, remember that you do matter and that you are anything but selfish whenever you decide to stand up for yourself and take your life back. People who would get pissed off of your decision to build strong and healthy boundaries are those who were taking advantage of you having none!