What If Your Personality Is The Combination Of Your Character And Conditioning Outcomes; Thus Flexible?

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We all have limitations is a reality nobody can deny. Nonetheless, what bothers me is that some people tend to confuse their limitations with their:

• Coping mechanisms,
• Behavioral patterns,
• Shields built against the profound shame of never feeling good enough,
• Survival strategies,
• Flashbacks and unprocessed feelings,

In summary, the creation of their lifetime of conditioning, false persona, filter, and unauthentic self.

It seems that limitations are typically what we can’t “do”, while the latter are merely by-products of our unfriendly subconscious program that we never wrote in the first place.

Hence, they can be destroyed whenever we decide that we are ready to embark on our painful and most rewarding journey!

Let’s take an example, shall we?

I can’t bike. I fell 3 times when I was a kid and trying to learn. My parents didn’t bother giving a push and empowering me, while it was their job.

This is a limitation of which I am aware. I might miss some very interesting and nurturing adventures because of it. Still, I decided to embrace it. I decided I could live without it.

More to the point, a limitation can be fully accepted without impacting our healthy balance and life overall. This statement doesn’t apply, in any case, to our limiting beliefs and their outcomes.

I can be bothered by some imposters telling their followers: You can embrace your demons and make them your best friends!

I’m like, “Are you f*cking kidding me?” Accepting their existence when awakening and starting to see them for what they are is crucial, undoubtedly.

They are ugly and you need to be honest about it while being armed with tons of self-compassion and gentleness.

All your choices or lack of them, emotional outbursts, tendency to complain, blame, envy, make excuses, and the list goes on, have never been part of your true self. Thus, should never be embraced.

The trap many inherently good people believe is that those are part of who they are as a person and that their personality is rigid. This bias is what makes them say:

Can’t you just take me as I am? Why do you need to understand everything?

 

The second part speaks volumes. If they knew who they were, they would have understood their behavior and communicated it healthily.

A behavioral pattern is triggered on auto-pilot. Questioning it would merely generate shame and reactivity given that the person does not know the root cause, yet. The question is:

Are you willing to accept living your limited existence in the shadow of who you truly are, or will you pay the price of your freedom, move back to the character arena, and unleash the servant leader and your full potential?

The choice is yours. Choose wisely and your future self and the whole Universe will be grateful!